Day 64...

These are the days....

These are the days. Vintage Chanel

These are the days. Vintage Chanel

Bag Detail

Bag Detail

I got to wear this bag to a very stylish friends house for a birthday celebration this Saturday.  I don't have many occasions to break out these bags, so when I do, it's always fun.  I feel very lucky to have girlfriends that like to play dress up as much as I do.  While this outfit was not my mom's style, I believe she would have dug it.  She was a pretty cool lady underneath all that St. John knit.  I do believe that my mom had a little rock and roll in her.  Hmmm maybe that's where I got it from?  


Day 63...

Going Native

Vintage Turquiose belt buckle

Vintage Turquiose belt buckle

Needs a polish!

Needs a polish!

I have always loved this belt buckle.  For those of you who may not know, (but I am sure many of you do), I was a raging hippie (that seems like an oxymoron no?) I travelled all over the country to any Grateful Dead show I could get tickets to or not. The tickets part didn't really matter, it was all about the "family", the travel, the tribe.  As a mother of two young girls now, I think about the fact that my mother let me go.  Although I am not sure she really had a choice.  I will never forget, coming home from a string of Dead shows on the east coast one summer, and announcing to her that I was not going to college, that instead I was going to go out to California to go to Mount Shasta to experience the Harmonic convergence.  WTF?!  And you know what?  She did not go crazy (although I am sure she was losing her mind on the inside).  She helped me do my laundry, pack my backpack, and let me go.  Before I left she handed me an envelope, inside she had handwritten all the lyrics to Cat Steven's "Wild World". Can you imagine, what that took for her?  In pre cell phone, pre internet,  almost pre calling card days, to let your child go out into the world like that?  I can't.  I am amazed at how she handled that, and you know what?  I called her on the Harmonic Convergence, after a vision quest on Mt. Shasta, and when I called, she said " I know exactly where you are" And she was right!  She loved me enough to let me go and try and find my own way.  In retrospect, I would like to believe that she had faith in me.  Mamma, thanks for giving me roots and wings.  


Day 62…

Snakes, why did it have to be snakes?
— Indiana Jones
VIntage Ronay snakeskin clutch

VIntage Ronay snakeskin clutch

Ronay Bag Details

Ronay Bag Details

One of the hard parts of this blog is not being able to talk to my mom about where she got all of her things.  Sometimes I know the story, but mostly not.  I must admit however, that I do derive some real pleasure in digging to find the story about a manufacturer that I would otherwise never heard of.  If It's got a tag, I've got a search engine!  I have major internet sleuth fever!!!  How else would I ever know that the Ronay bag company has been around since the 40's and that they were a NY based operation?  I find it fun and interesting, little tidbits of history.   My mom was a world class thrift shopper, this may have been one of her finds.  She had such an eye for quality.  This snakeskin clutch/handbag is in PERFECT condition, not dry or fragile, which leads me to believe it was may be from the 70's or even 80's.  There are a bunch of these on ebay and etsy, if you are in the market for a cute bag.  Found them in eggplant, red, and even this beige.  How fun with jeans, a tee, and heels!  It can even be worn cross body, as my dear friend and guest photographer, Sandy pointed out, (ya' know just in case you want to wear it while boogieing the night away!)  It is Friday after all.  Have a great weekend.  xoxox


Day 61

Put a ring on it…

Sweet vintage pearl and gold ring

Sweet vintage pearl and gold ring

My Apologies for missing yesterday's post, I was on Jury Duty all day, and solo in the evening with my girls, then asleep next to my 8 year old in her bed by 8:45…which I secretly love doing) This is a perfect, sweet little gold and pearl ring.  It is so impossibly small that it only fits on my pinkie, and I don't consider myself to have real meathooks (unless I am typing on an iPhone, then I am a ham handed luddite!)  Maybe this was a sweet sixteen gift for my mom?  I'll never know. It has a decidedly 40's or 50's flair.  Pearls have not really been in vogue as of late, but why not?  Don't we all need more things that are soft, luminous and gentle in our lives?  I know I do.  I am even ok with it being on my pinkie, it's a little flashier on that finger, a little "hey, how you doin?" But it gives it some edge.  Let's all wear more pearls!  xoxo


Day 60…

Tie one on

Hermes Scarf as a belt

Hermes Scarf as a belt

When is an Hermes scarf not a scarf?  When it's a belt!  Why not?  Hermes scarf, I love you, but I need to wear you in a non-traditional way.  I have tried wrapping you around my neck, but you are big, and it's a lot of look.  I cannot wear you as a top, that's for bra-less twenty somethings - I am loving you as a belt! If I do wear you as a scarf, it will be with flats and broken in jeans.  Interesting to be in between fashion realms. I am no longer a kid, but I am not matronly.  Yes, Eileen Fisher clothing looks more interesting to me these days, but stand down Chico's, I am not ready for you!!  And frankly, while my mom loved you, I'm not a fan.  Will I be?!  Will it be like my husbands's bit (My husband is a very funny comedian, who performs with his equally hysterical brother as the Sklar Brothers - they do a Chico's bit that is one of my favorites…It may be on You Tube, I Tunes? Ran?) But I digress. It's all about the balance, wearing these items without looking like I am in costume.  Making them my own.  I may have good experiments with that and not, but hey, I'm giving it a shot.  See you tomorrow.


Day 59…

Dior Deux

Vintage Dior Handbag

Vintage Dior Handbag

Such a cute little bag, fun with jeans, it really feels timeless.  It's so interesting going through all  these pieces, and seeing which ones stand the test of time.  My mother certainly did have an eye for what to keep. I find that I am really developing a different relationship to clothing and accessories, than I ever had before.  I look at all the stuff out there, and now find myself really knowing what is pure trend, and what has legs.  I see a lot of repeated profiles from some of these old pieces, everything old is new again.  

Day 58…

Just Ducky

Vintage Duck Belt buckle

Vintage Duck Belt buckle

Duck Belt Detail

Again, this belt is just pure fun.  It's a smooching duck belt buckle for Heaven's sake!  But honestly, you have to have some balance to pull this off or it could veer very quickly into treacly territory.  So I think this kind of belt pairs well with a pretty simple backdrop.  This buckle is dated 1973, I was four years old when my mom wore this.  I loved it then, and I love it now. xo

Day 57…

A shoe in!

Stubbs & Wootton Needlepoint loafers

Stubbs & Wootton Needlepoint loafers

Yep, frog needlepoint loafers.  Come on, these are just pure fun, and sooo comfy.  I love wearing these because they never fail to start a conversation, and I am a HUGE hit at the playground, what can I say? Kids love em'. xo


Day 56…

Oh Elsa

Elsa Peretti mesh bib necklace

Elsa Peretti mesh bib necklace

1975 scarf necklace ad

1975 scarf necklace ad

This is a necklace my mom gave me as a gift.  It is an Elsa Peretti silver scarf necklace.  It is such a beautiful piece, so soft and fluid.  My mother loved Elsa Peretti, as do I.  Both modern and  classic at the same time.  Real works of art.  Thank you mom.  xo

Day 55...

Pucci Due

Vintage Pucci Swim Cover-up

Vintage Pucci Swim Cover-up

Normally, I wouldn't profile 2 pieces by the same designer in one week, but somehow, being in Palm Springs just felt so perfect for at least 2 Pucci's.  Believe it or not, this is a swim cover up.  Um, I'm thinking the swimsuit is about all it covers! Holy shortness!  Although, if you look at the latest ad for Mad Men, Megan Drapers mini is pretty mini, but at least she had tights!  I love that there was a time that Pucci designed exclusively for Saks, and I love that I have this little piece of fashion history.  I saw a friend today that suggested I donate some of the pieces to a fashion school.  Not a bad idea, there really is a lot of history in some of these outfits, and I don't want them to disintegrate into a Miss Havisham state of disrepair.  At some point, I will have to make decisions about the future of all of this.  I believe having this year will be a very good tonic to help me navigate that terrain.  Thank you for coming on this journey with me.  xoxo




Day 54...

Gods hand

Hamsa bracelet

Hamsa bracelet

In its simplest form the symbol for Hamsa is the hand. It is talismanic symbol that people believed would protect them from harm against evil forces and bring them goodness, abundance, fertility, luck and good health.  My mother gave this one to me.  It is simple and sweet, and will always remind me that she wished all of those things on me, as I wish the same for my daughters, and all the loved ones in my life.  The fact that she bought it at Neiman Marcus, pure mom.  xoxo

Day 53...

Ole'!

Hand block printed skirt from Mexico

Hand block printed skirt from Mexico

My mom brought this skirt back from her honeymoon after marrying my stepfather Mike.  It has a matching top and it is so comfortable.  She also brought back some really beautiful silver and amethyst jewelry, from that trip, which you will see sometime over the year.  It was a very happy time for my mom, and for me.  It felt so perfect for this trip.  xo

Day 52...

Crochet?  Ok.

Crochet bathing suit cover-up

Crochet bathing suit cover-up

So, this top falls into the category of the ankle bracelet.  I am not really sure where my mom got this, but I do remember her wearing it on a vacation to Rehobeth Beach with her friends Annie and Bill Boucher, It was the eighties, and we were living in Maryland at the time.  What is crazy about this, is that, I am now older than my mom, during the time I remember her wearing this. This is an homage to us being in Palm Springs during Coachella, it definitely feels more Rock & Roll than most of her pieces, but that's what is so fun about this.  Fun fact: my mom was once asked out by the lead singer of the Psychedelic Furs.  She said no, and literally had no idea who he was, and referred to him as the lead singer of the 'Psychedelic Fuzz', not as a joke, but because she really could not remember the name of the band, and this was in the 80's!!!  I was freaking out, but she laughed it off. Mom, you had it going on!  xoxo


Day 51...

Palm Springs Pucci 1

MontagePucci.jpg

Oh how I love these old Pucci's, some are in great shape, others are not. This happens to be in very good shape.  This is Emilio Pucci for Formfit Rogers,  So this is actually a part of his lingerie line.  For anyone that had any doubts about the past being more conservative, I am wearing this with pants, and are you looking at where the slit on this is?!  This takes Agent Provocateur to task.  We are spending our Spring Break in Palm Springs, which has a particular resonance for me.  The Palm Springs store was one of the first Saks fifth Avenue's my father ever opened.  And my mother loved it here.  It was a new land in the 60's, she was a new bride, with a new son, and the future spread out before her.  I believe that this was the place that she was truly the happiest.  She always said she felt like a California girl at heart.  I believe that, she loved the promise, the spirit and the light of it,  just like I do.  She hated that I moved so far away, but if I was going to go any where, she approved of California for sure.  I wish I knew the name of her old street, I would try and find it.  But even if I don't, I know where it is, I am close, I am in the old section of town, the section she would have lived.  So I am here, she is here, we are here together.  I am seeing your sky, and smelling your air, and seeing your flowers, and wearing your clothes.  I even dreamt of you last night,  You are near, and I hope you always will be.  I love you forever.


Day 50...

Marrakech Express

Moroccan caftan

Moroccan caftan

Caftan Detail

Caftan Detail

This Caftan is not vintage, not unless you consider 2001 to be vintage. What makes this caftan special to me, is that my mother and I got these matching caftans on a trip that she and I took alone together to the Southern Mediterranean.  This sounds incredibly glamourous, no? No.  Dont get me wrong, we had some great times on that trip, but we also has some pretty rough times literally.  What kid would not accept their mothers offer to take them on a Mediterranean cruise?  Well actually, probably quite a lot.  It is not really the sort of trip that one takes with their mother.  But I am actually doing what my husband calls "burying the lead"  Because I have failed to mention that this cruise was actually part of what is called a "miniatures" cruise.  Yep, a group of ladies that loooove miniatures, building them, buying them, selling them etc. So when you went on this cruise, all of your meals, and certain days at sea were spent with this group of ladies.  My mom was a cool lady, and she loved miniatures, I love miniatures.  These ladies, not so much, and frankly, not all that nice.  I have blocked out the name of the woman that was the leader of the trip, but she was not particularly warm, and I remember that my mom felt the woman did not like her all that much, and that made me feel very protective of her. My mother was wildly sensitive, as am I, and I could not stand this big bully, oh the irony in that turn of phrase!  

We travelled to Rome together, had a fabulous meal, made it to port, and bordered our vessel.  It was an older, very worn ship in the Holland America line, called the the SS Nordam.   We had some good times, and some very rough times on that trip, but one of the highlights was in Morocco. Being in the Grand Bazaar with my mother was simultaneously, hysterical and terrifying.  As I turned around to find her, purse open, dollar bills flying out, surrounded by vendors attempting to sell her their wares.  I swear at one point she had a monkey on her shoulder.  Later, we ventured out to a rug, and housewares shop, where we drank sweet minted  tea, and I politely haggled with them over slippers and caftans.  I love this Caftan, now I have two.  I have a dear friend that will look swell in it, and I think I am ready to pass it on.  I still have mine, and her slippers, and another one, in a different color and pattern, that I will save for one of the girls.  On this sweet Spring Break, I am so happy to be with my girls, and hope that one day, if I asked, they would come on a crazy adventure with me.  Thank you mamma for your generosity, for your spirit, and your love.  


Day 49...

The Bees Knees

Wolfie Harem pant, Bass sandals, 

Wolfie Harem pant, Bass sandals, 

Sweet gold bee pin

Sweet gold bee pin

I love Spring Break.  I have always loved spring break.  When I was a child, we spent all our Spring Breaks at my grandparents house in Palm Beach.  They had a cabana at the Breakers hotel where we would swim in the pool, and try the too rough ocean (mostly we just made sand castles and ended up with tar on our feet and bottoms)  My mom would always take me to the Lily Pulitzer shop there and buy me a new dress to wear to the Breaker's Easter brunch.  Hands down, best brunch. Ever.  That's what I love about this time, it feels like THE time for all those bright, beautiful, alive, colors, the colors of spring flowers, the colors of the dresses my mom took me shopping for.  Fuchsia, emerald green, white, gold!  Oh Lilly Pulitzer would be smiling.  This pin was my moms,  she had two, one with 'rubies' as well. This would have been on the shoulder of any spring suit she owned.  I love it.  It's so little, bright and sweet.  Just like you mom. The fabulous hot pink eyelet harem pants I am wearing are from my sweet friend Stephanie Wolf-Hicks, who makes them in a almost every fabric and color.  They are comfortable,  and oh-in black silk with heels and a tank?  Amazing.  If you get a minute, you really should check out her website,  Every girl needs a pair, or 4!  Uh-oh, I really am my mothers daughter. xo

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Day 48....

Better late than never?

Black Bag....

Black Bag....

I know this post is woefully late in the day.  Does it count that my husband is out of town, I have been working full time, and have to pack our family up to leave for spring break in the am?  In my book, uh, yeah, it does.  Also, this bag does not make me feel warm and fuzzy.  I recently mentioned that it was my birthday, and that I have been doing a lot of looking at where I am know compared to last year.  I took this bag out last Friday.  I had not used it in a long time.  When I opened it, the memorial card from my mom's funeral was in it.  I was not prepared to look at it and put it on my dresser.  For some bizarre reason (or not) I still don't want to look at it.  I'll never forget being in the funeral home, being asked what picture I wanted on it and what I wanted the quote to be.  It was such a strange time, making decisions about memorial cards and flowers.  It had been the second time in as many years that I had to do that (losing my father previously), and I have to say, it's weird.  There is a god given gift of strength, that helps you muscle through those times.  You imagine it before it happens and think "I will never be able to do/handle this" but you do, you soldier on, because you have to.  Because if you didn't, who knows what the damn card would say, or what the flowers would look like. Because I knew in my heart of hearts, that my mother did care about those things, and so I found the strength. So that bag, that I had not worn since my mother's funeral, had it's first outing since then.  And it made me think.  But instead of making me sad, it made me feel strong. xo

Day 47…

Twist of fate

Vintage twist a beads!

Vintage twist a beads!

Ah ha!  It's called  a "Twist-A-Bead" necklace, and yes, you can find them on Etsy, or Pinterest.  How do I know?  Exhaustive internet research, that's how.  I truly am so curious about the provenance of so many of these pieces, and like to share that info. (They were an eighties trend BTW) This is a necklace that I put together to match the belt I wore the other day, (in true mom fashion).  Oh, and don't worry, I have close to 15 other strands in different colors.  I think that I am going to have to start a revival of these, they really are fun.  Does anyone else remember these?  xo

Day 46…

Twists and turns

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Belt detail

Belt detail

I really love this belt, this is the one I have in pastel tones, (I wore the jewel toned one on St. Patrick's Day.)  I love the colors in this, and I love the detail.  This is from a designer named Gay Boyer. My mother loved ALL things Gay Boyer, especially jewelry, and belts, so you will see a lot of these over the year.  Gay was gracious enough to offer me a job in her showroom, in what Europeans call  "the gap year"  I call it the "uh oh, I had better get my s*$t together year!"  During that year working for Gay, I lived at home in Long Island, and commuted to Manhattan. My mother loved having me at home, and as much as any 18 year would admit, I loved it too.  I always loved being with my mom.  It always felt like a treat, and not a burden.  I loved our mother daughter time so much.  Hopefully my daughters will always love it as well.  xo

Day 45…

Go Shorty, It’s your birthday
— 50 Cent
Cos Dress, Birthday shoes, Vintage Brass Ring

Cos Dress, Birthday shoes, Vintage Brass Ring

Goldfinger….

Goldfinger….

I have not dropped the ball on daily posting, I promise, I just had an interesting thing happen yesterday, It was my birthday, and I truly embraced the self indulgence of the day.  I really wanted it to be all about me.  I spent a lovely day with my husband, we went to yoga, had a nice lunch, did some shopping, saw a movie and had a fabulous dinner at a Michelin rated restaurant. That's what I call a damn near perfect day.  This birthday was very different from last years, when my mom's passing was SO fresh, this time, I looked back on the past year, as one always does on these benchmark occasions, and thought about how lucky I was. Lucky to have such sweet daughters, lucky to have my husband, and my friends.  I let myself be happy.  I don't have many friends my age that have lost their parents, especially both parents, but one of my friends that has, once said to me:  "There will be a time that you will not be grieving as often, and that may bring you guilt."  Wow, was he right.  Please don't get me wrong, I still feel my grief, very often acutely, but it comes in waves, (PS pain and grief also teach you this nifty trick called compartmentalization, where you have to stow it away sometimes, just to make it through a day)  I missed my mom desperately yesterday, her call, her card, her love.  But I focused on what I have, more than what I have lost.  

Yesterday I wore one of my favorite rings from my mom, a big chunky brass number that looks like a piece of a glamourous meteorite.  I paired it with a dress I got in Paris, and my new birthday sandals.  xo